if I didn’t share all my thoughts and feelings about the day I got married.
It’s one of the reasons I started Hoboken Ramble. To have a place where my every day happenings are stored.
A place to revisit things I may have forgotten.
Because I hope to never forget the day.
I think it’s important to first get out the things they don’t tell you about a wedding. For my friend Christine, it was that she would be utterly exhausted. On the dance floor at her wedding, she told me she could easily fall asleep while standing there talking. For me, it was the fact that almost nothing would go as planned.
21 months of planning and I was still putting things together on the drive up.
My hair only slightly resembled my hair trial.
Our family and bridal party photos were completely chaotic. No one was where they were supposed to be and we went from having three hours for photos down to one. And then, it started to rain. So we hightailed it inside and basically walked into all of our guests. Whoops.
I forgot the sign for my cute chalkboard desk, so none of my guests knew to pick up the muslin bags of petals to throw as we walked up the aisle. And although the wedding coordinator started to hand them out, no one tossed the petals.
Although I was disappointed by the lack of time for photos and the petals not working out, I stayed calm and collected the whole time. I was happy. Someone could have walked up to me to tell me the sky was falling and I would have said, “Ok, what should we do about it?”
Then there are those moments that you know are coming, but that you still are not fully prepared for and will forever be unable to describe.
Jay was initally against the idea of a first look, but with a wedding at 6:30 pm, we had no choice. Plus I know how amazing first look photos usually turn out, so I was all for it. And sure enough, the look on Jay’s face when he turned around was priceless. He tried to not cry and ended up doing a snort, choke, chuckle thing and I died laughing. It was amazing.
My bridesmaid Jenn started to tear up as we were about to walk down the aisle. Then my dad heard “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” playing and started to tear up as well.
No one tells you how emotional everyone around you will get … and that it won’t get any easier. Because if you are able to hold it all back through the ceremony, your father will say all those things you know that he never really says like “i’m so happy for you and Jay” and “you know I love you” during your father daughter dance. Then your brother will deliver a poignant, loving, charismatic speech that has you choked up all over once again.
A wedding is a rollercoaster of emotions.